OK, let’s say that you’ve been dating for a while and your relationship is going well. You’ve introduced him to your kids and you’ve met his. You’ve visited parks, zoos, museums, street fairs and any other child-friendly places suggested. Both of you are quite serious about a committed relationship. Now, it’s time for the next step…
But instead of feeling eager to invite him to your home for a casual visit, suddenly you are panic stricken! Why do you think negative thoughts about how often the kids argue at home? Or how the kids seem to prefer video games to conversation? Hey, aren’t their rooms messy? Won’t he think that you are a slob too?!
Relax! Anxiety is normal and perfectly ok. Realize that your sweetie was a kid once and so were you! If he really likes you and really likes your kids outside of your home, he’ll feel the same way inside of your home.
Before he arrives, let the kids choose some non-competitive board games! Online shopping is fun, but nothing is better than going to a local store where you can try a sample game.
When he first arrives, break the ice, by getting everyone busy in the kitchen. (If he asks, “What’s a kitchen?”, count that as a red flag). Tell them that you have a surprise! As a group, make a delicious allergy-friendly, strawberry, butterfly cake!
While the cake’s baking and sending delicious smells through your home, play the games that the children picked. Afterwards, enjoy cake and then let the kids go wherever they want to go, while you share “adult time”.
If all of your children have identical food allergies, you are very fortunate! (Many single parents who live with food allergic children have a mixture of peanut allergies, shellfish allergies, dairy allergies, soy allergies and more to contend with at home!) Indeed, you have found the perfect time to share your allergy friendly household strategy with your sweetie. Show him how you organize your pantry and refrigerator to protect your allergic children. (Be proud of your efforts!) Have you chosen to combine all of your family’s food allergies into single meals at home? If so, share samples of tantalizing leftovers with him. If not, introduce him to the methods that you use to avoid cross contamination.
Remember what’s most important of all: have fun (and don’t forget to send him home with an extra piece of cake)!