5 Excuses You Need to Stop Making in a Relationship
Have you ever wondered why your relationships don’t work? Do they seem to be going really well in the beginning and then somewhere along the line your flame starts going out? You’re probably making excuses in your relationship early on that are eventually catching up with you.
Do yourself a favor and stop making these excuses. Not only will it help stop relationships that won’t work out before you get too deep, but it will also be more fair to you and your partner to be honest with yourself. It goes both ways…
1. I’m just getting used to my new partner, I will feel differently soon. No, that’s not how it works. You don’t have to feel incredible sparks in the beginning. It’s not like the movies. However, you should probably not be questioning whether or not you can stand for the other person’s actions. If it feels off, it’s off and that’s enough for you to move on. Their negative actions will only continue to negatively impact your life and happiness more and more.
2. My new partner is playing the field because they are just testing out how they feel about me and that’s okay. No, stop making excuses for them. If they are serious about seeing where things go with you, they wouldn’t be playing the field with others. It won’t end well for you if you don’t stand up for yourself and demand the respect you deserve.
3. My partner and I disagree on major issues, but maybe we can grow to accept our differences. The thing is, big differences in opinion for topics like politics, religion, money, family and the like are a major problem. Can you come to some middle ground? Maybe. Chances are though, if you are THAT different, eventually you’re going to be arguing often and never see eye to eye.
4. I’m still in love with my ex, but that’s normal and maybe this new person can fix that for me. That’s not how it works and it’s not fair to your new partner. You can’t say it’s normal to still be in love with your ex while you’re pretending to give your new partner your all. You need to get over your ex before you can give anyone else an honest try. It’s not normal and you need to stop saying that it is. Move on and then try again. It’s your responsibility before attempting at another relationship.
5. I’m not giving up who I am to be with this person, I am just adapting to my new relationship. No, no, no. To put it simply you are changing who you are into someone you aren’t to make someone else happy. Let’s just say that won’t last long. Sooner or later the act will run out and you’ll resent your partner. Never ever change who you are for someone else because in the end, you can never actually change who you are. You will be who you will be and if you’re faking, there will come a time you can’t fake any more.