5 Online Dating Tips for Single Straight Men Looking for a Real Date
- 28
- Jun
Online dating can mean a lot of different things to different people. Some are looking for a hook up, some are looking for friends and others are looking for true love. It doesn’t stop there, but no matter how you slice and carve it, online dating can be a bit difficult for some.
So if you’re an average single straight guy, you may sign into your profile wondering “what in the hell do I do now?!”. That’s okay, it’s pretty normal to feel a bit lost in the dating world - not everyone is Don Juan.
Now and in the future, when you sign on to your dating profile and give online dating a shot, keep these tips in mind.
1. Be sure about what you want and what you are looking for. If you don’t know what you even want, how are you going to know what to do and how to attract the woman you desire? If you can’t sit down at your computer with an exact purpose for your online endeavor, you’re going to be all over the place when you start speaking with those gorgeous women. Your flirt game is going to be minimal and you’re not going to get anything at all. Know who you are, what you want and where you want to go with the conversation.
2. Don’t talk yourself up. No woman wants to hear what you’re worth, how important you are, how successful you are or how important you will be. It’s unattractive and while you may think you’re impressing, you’re actually turning her off. Be a “show-er”, not a teller. Lure her in with charm and then if you want to show her how successful you are, take her out on an extravagant date and make no mention of how luscious it is. Do it, don’t tell it.
3. Focus on your profile picture. Truth be told, studies show that men get more responses when they are looking away from the camera and not smiling. Don’t be a showboat in your picture. Don’t take your shirt off and don’t be obnoxious. When a woman is looking at your picture, you want them to think, “wow where was that picture taken??”, “how did he do that?”, “wow! he looks adventurous”. Impress them and lure them in with your surroundings.
4. Stop saying “hi” the same way. The usual “hey, what’s up?” screams, I am a boring dude and you know it. Personalize you’re greeting. If the woman’s name is Beth and her profile states that she’s traveled to Europe, say “Hi Beth, couldn’t help but notice you’ve traveled to Europe. Where did you go? Any advice? I am looking to take a trip there in the near future.” Ask questions, spark responses and get them talking. Once you’re in, you’re in - then you can start flirting.
5. Don’t play games with her. Let’s be honest, woman can and WILL read right through your games. If you’re puffing yourself up and making yourself seem cooler than you are, a real woman is going to laugh and close her chat box with you. Don’t be foolish just because you are trying to impress. Lying, playing games or pretending to be something you are not is not going to score you the date you want.
